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The Daily Sheeple

Krause recently wrote an article in The Daily Sheeple regarding the molestation charges against the former Speaker of the House, Dennis Hastert. I am with Krause, I want to know how these politicians continuously walk away from their crimes? It has been alleged that Mr. Hastert molested several boys back in the 60’s and 70’s that he was coaching.
While investigating Mr. Hastert’s financial crimes, it was uncovered that he’d been paying one of the alleged victims hush money in the amount of $3.5 million!
According to the prosecution: “The actions at the core of this case took place not on the defendant’s national public stage but in his private one-on-one encounters in an empty locker room and a motel room with minors that violated the special trust between those young boys and their coach.” And if that’s not enough to make you wretch—Hastert had the audacity to ask one of his alleged victims if could help him out with some cash.
Fortunately, for Hastert the statute of limitations had expired. Therefore, no charges can be filed against him.
I believe the “statute of limitations” needs changed for child sexual abuse cases. Just think how many Catholic priests walked for the same reason. And, the legislators would probably never hear of changing it—because some of them may be in the same boat as Hastert.
The article didn’t mention the welfare of the abused in this case. Why is the villain portrayed as the victim; and the victims as some type of irritation to get rid of? I would have loved to heard the damages to these men that was a direct result of the sexual abuse. Where’s that story?
I also noted about this particular article that they refer to Hastert as a molester instead of a pedophile. Molestation is a classified as a crime; while pedophilia is classified as emotional illness. It may have been realized right away that the charges would not stick to Hastert; and it would be better for him publicly to not be viewed as a pedophile because they normally never stop their abuse.
Child sexual abuse destroys lives. Hastert may have destroyed four lives or many lives throughout the decades, but let’s not refer to him as a pedophile.

What Happened to the Sexually Abusive Catholic Priests?

The Storm and Semi

The Vatican defrocked close to 400 priests from 2011-2012. There were a “scant few” disciplined by the Vatican. It would appear that some church polices discipline their own and decide if the priest’s allegations are true or not. When did the Church become jury, judge and executioner? I thought the laws of the US governed all. Was I wrong? Continue reading “What Happened to the Sexually Abusive Catholic Priests?”

The Sexual Abuse Finally Ends

Editor’s Note: The following article is an excerpt from my manuscript detailing my own abuse. Please see “My Story of Abuse” under the category link.

Wrecked Car

It was the summer that I was twelve, and we had just moved out on one of the ridges. The house only had two bedrooms, but Crystal was to be married in just a couple of weeks. So, she and I continued to share a room, and Darcie’s bedroom was in the basement. We had three acres of ground with an above ground swimming pool. We were thrilled over the pool. It was a constant fight to keep the pump running and filtering the water. It had a small diving board that we loved! There was a small pasture for Prince, but I had long ago out-grown him. I didn’t ride him too much anymore and wanted a horse that fit me. Continue reading “The Sexual Abuse Finally Ends”

The Pump House

Editor’s Note: The following article is an excerpt from my manuscript detailing my own abuse. Please see “My Story of Abuse” under the category link.

Pump House

Vic opened the waiting room door and looked at me and smiled his calm and reassuring smile at me. “Come on in Victoria.” I felt very anxious and a bit panic-stricken; this was to be the second session of EMDR therapy. I sat down in my usual chair, and he pulled his up beside of mine and the session began. It was like flipping a light switch off and on. In an instant, I was back to being six years old sitting in the yard all caught up in how warm the sun felt, the chickens cackling in the background. Continue reading “The Pump House”

Dissociative Identity Disorder

DID Graphic

Dissociative Identity Disorder is one of the most misunderstood disorders. Hollywood has portrayed the disorder as some psychotic, maniac like, “The Three Faces of Eve,” or “Sybil.” There are varying degrees of every disorder, and this applies as well to DID. In an attempt, to destigmatize the disorder, the DSM changed its’ name from Multiple Personality Disorder to Dissociative Identity Disorder. It does not appear to have done a lot to straighten out the misunderstanding of the disorder. Dissociation means to break away, disconnect or sever. Continue reading “Dissociative Identity Disorder”

Skating With Crystal

Editor’s Note: The following article is an excerpt from my manuscript detailing my own abuse. Please see “My Story of Abuse” under the category link.

Skates

It was a nice, warm, Saturday morning and Crystal yelled for Dottie, “Let’s go roller skating.” Dottie grabbed her skates up and out the back door the two girls flew. They began skating up and down the sidewalk and was having a good time. Then, Crystal decided to build a ramp off the back porch so, “we’d coming flying down it and down the walkway.” Without hesitation, Dottie went flying down the ramp and did a straddle split when she hit the sidewalk. Continue reading “Skating With Crystal”

Revictimization

Victim

Have you ever wondered why some people fall victim of sexual abuse more than once? Finding myself in this category—I asked myself how could it have happened again? I was a childhood victim of incest, and then at the age of thirteen, I was date raped. Later in life, I was sexually harassed by a college professor. And, I’ve been involved in relationships throughout my life with emotionally abusive men. Continue reading “Revictimization”

Accepting It Really Happened

Girl in the sun

For many survivors of childhood sexual abuse, it is extremely difficult to accept “yes, my abuse really did happen.” We spend our lives shoving it down deep inside of us; keeping it from our conscious minds, and then when we remember, or memories of the abuse come flooding back into our conscious minds we do not want to believe it is true. Continue reading “Accepting It Really Happened”

Huge Black Snake

Editor’s Note: The following article is an excerpt from my manuscript detailing my own abuse. Please see “My Story of Abuse” under the category link.

Black Snake

My earliest childhood memories were of a cute little white house we lived in that sat back off a very busy highway. It had a big yard for us to play in, but I can remember the semi’s going by really fast and the wind they made would blow my hair all around, and it would throw dirt all over me if I got close to the road. It was scary if you stood too close to the road. I may have been four years old when we moved from Shinnston to this little white house in McKeefry. Continue reading “Huge Black Snake”

Pandora’s Project

Reprinted with permission from, Pandora’s Project

Older People Surviving Child Sexual Abuse
2010 Pandora’s Aquarium
By: Louise

Note: While it’s true that some older survivors of child sexual abuse can have experiences that trigger a powerful resurgence of past trauma, this article is not meant to state that this will be the case for all. Rather, I hope it will be a comfort and offer support to older survivors who are experiencing a hard time with their pasts. You are not alone, and it is not hopeless.

Introduction
It is well-documented by writers and researchers that there are times in the lives of abuse survivors when they will be more prone to thoughts and feelings about their histories. Circumstances that can instigate the re-opening of abuse-related wounds include pregnancy, a fresh encounter with sexual assault whether against the survivor or somebody close, children becoming the same age the survivor was at the time of their assault, or being in a safe relationship and no longer needing to merely survive. Another context for the arousal of early abuse-related trauma can be approaching, or having entered, middle-age. Continue reading “Pandora’s Project”